The Crew

The Crew
Christina, Matthew, Joshua and Katie Grace XiHua

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

I GOT A MACBOOK PRO!


I'm so excited because I bought a laptop! I have been wanting one for quite awhile, but since we are saving for the adoption, I couldn't imagine spending the money elsewhere. But I happen to check Craig*list, and there was a guy selling one for less than 1/2 price and it was new with a lot of extra software! It is not a necessity, but I believe a great investment. Now I can take it on vacation and also, when the time comes, to Taiwan. I have done all of my work here on my home computer, but now I will be able to upload photos and do business and blog wherever I go! Yay!

Sunday, June 20, 2010

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

We are so thankful for dads! Happy Father's Day to Jacob, my husband! He is an awesome, loving dad. I continue to thank God for your love, friendship and partnership!



Thank you for always joining in to play and to teach the kids!



Thank you for taking time to teach them exciting skills and allowing them to take part!


Thank you for attending all of the events in their lives and supporting their achievements!

This is my Dad and my Mom who have always been so special to me and dear to my heart! I miss them so much, having lived far away for so many years. I cherish our visits! I missed posting on Mother's Day, so I wanted to give thanks for my mom too!


We love when Lolli and Pops come to visit, there is always fun in store! Pops is fun and loving and is always ready for whatever comes his way! He is definitely a giver and a doer. Lolli is a mom that we could not live without!



This is Christina and Matthew's Abuelo. He is their kind hearted grandpa who lives in Puerto Rico and is always missing them! Abuela is an awesome grandma, but I don't have any photos of her on IPhoto. I will have the kids take some when they visit PR this summer!


We honor our dads and grandpas today. Happy Father's Day.




Saturday, June 12, 2010

WE HAVE QUESTIONS!


You may wonder, "Ok, what are your questions?". Well actually I don't mean we have questions to ask, but I mean, we have questions to answer.
We have received a list of questions to answer about our interest in adopting the particular child we have requested. I believe, that having received a list of questions from this child's social worker, is a very good sign that they are highly considering US as THE family! I imagine that several families submitted for this child, so this isn't a for sure, just us going in a positive direction.
The questions are basically asking about our family and sibling dynamics, and also education options and plans as this child will have some special needs. Among a few other inquiries.
So, this is really cool! I will keep you updated!

Thursday, June 10, 2010

CHRISTINA'S END OF THE YEAR RECITAL!



Every June, Christina has an end of the year recital for dance. She has grown to be such a beautiful dancer and I enjoy watching her and all of her friends perform what they have learned throughout the year. The recital is VERY long, and there are two on recital day along with a full dress rehearsal day, but I stick with her through it all! It was an exhausting weekend of A LOT of driving back and forth 45 miles away, but worth watching them perform their hearts out!

I am waiting to receive the official yearly "dance portraits", and it isn't easy to get her and stop for a photo after the performance, but here are a couple of cute shots I took.

One is of Christina and her boyfriend, yes, I said boyfriend! I know you may be thinking, Yikes! A boyfriend at 15? But believe me, we keep it all very innocent. They see each other at school and occasionally have "group dates" at Disney or at the movies, with careful planning. His mom was nice enough to drive him all the way to the city of the recital and I brought him home. He is a very nice and friendly young man.

The other photo is of Christina with one of the little girls who she assists teaching at the studio. This little girl is a darling and a bundle of energy! ( I'm not posting their names for their privacy :) ) Christina assists teaching 3 classes of little 5-6 year olds and she loves that!

Thursday, June 3, 2010

WE PUT IN A REQUEST FOR A CHILD!


We have super cool news. I was deliberating on whether to post this, but I decided this morning that I would go ahead and post. This is not a match yet, but we have put in an official request to be matched with a child on the waiting child list!

I can't share any information about the child, but we are very excited and anxious to find out if we are approved. We know that we are probably not the only family requesting this child, (I believe each agency can submit one family?) so we will wait to hear which family they decide is the best match. We have just been praying that God will choose the family that will be the best fit to meet the needs of this particular little sweetie. He knows who will be a perfect match for this child, and the child's needs (not our want to adopt) should be at the forefront of our desires. So, we trust His decision.

We are very happy about our decision. Keep us in your prayers and good thoughts and I will keep you updated!

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

HAPPY BIRTHDAY JACOB!


Happy Birthday to my husband, Jacob.
Jacob is my best friend. We laugh A LOT. We love to talk and laugh and share everything we are thinking. When I ask him to, he keeps his heart and mind open to possibilities. He is so supportive of my dreams and, I guess you could say, my spiritual and mothering intuition. At the same time, he keeps me balanced as we think things through together, putting all details on the table. He is a great dad and loves family time. He is a talented artist, blessed with the gift of singing. Oh, and also, it doesn't hurt that he is really cute!

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

6 MONTHS WAITING......


We have now been 6 months on the waiting list. 1/2 of a year! Now, if it really is to take 3 years to be matched with a child (as many are experiencing), we are only be 1/6 of the way there. Yucky! But we are also keeping a very close eye on the waiting children as well, and who knows what God has in store!
We know there is a child who needs a home and loving family, and we will meet our little one soon. Well, of course, soon is relative. In the life of a mosquito, soon is about 2 hours. In the life of my lovely Grandma Alice, who lived to be 100, soon is just one season of life.

Sunday, May 23, 2010

HAPPY 15th BIRTHDAY CHRISTINA!!!





Happy Birthday to our daughter, Christina! She is 15 years old today! My husband and I often comment to each other on the fact that we are blessed to have her. Christina is a very easy teenager to parent.
She is pretty even tempered (maybe occasional drama!), and is loving to her younger brothers. When she babysits the boys, she "themes" the evening and they plan games, movies, and food accordingly. I work part time and the boys are never sad if I have to go to work and leave them home with Christina! THAT is a blessing! Joshua said the other day, "okay mom, are you going now? Cause we have fun plans". If you are a parent and you know your kids are happy and safe when you have to have a sitter, that is so awesome!
Christina is a beautiful dancer and a talented musician. She assists teaching students at her dance studio and the kids adore her. She gets good grades in school and keeps busy, so thus far, no mischief!
Happy Birthday and may God bless all of your days, Christina.

Friday, April 23, 2010

5 MONTHS WAITING.........


This old sun dial is a good way to watch time pass! Which brings me to the fact that here we are, 5 months on the waiting list. I read on the adoption yahoo group the other day that several families are now well past their 3 year mark of waiting, with still no sign of referral. This is a bit disheartening. I knew that it could possibly be up to 3 years, but now it is looking more and more like the norm and even extending past that. I know we made a change to a child up to 48 months, but there's no way to know if that is going to shorten our wait any. Only time will tell. Obviously. :) Okay, so I will keep a positive attitude for another month, and then next month I will probably leave a similar post, and well, this will probably go on for a looong while so bear with me!

Sunday, April 18, 2010

DRESSES DRESSES DRESSES!

Our friend, Tami was (is still?) doing a fundraiser and was receiving a percentage of sales toward her adoption. The boutique is www.nannyjosboutique.com and "NannyJo" makes the most adorable dresses! So I just had to order one for Katie Grace to help the fundraiser. I ordered the green gingham ladybug dress below along with the knee length ruffled bloomers and hair bow. Obviously the dress below has another child's monogrammed name on it, but isn't it the cutest? I wasn't sure what size to order for a possibly 2-4 year old girl, so I ordered a 3T- I imagine that will work out fine. I unfortunately didn't have it monogrammed for a few reasons, one- I am quite practical and would like to pass it on, and two- what if it doesn't fit? ! Then I have to give it to another little sweetie.



Ok, so I have another confession. I was shopping the other day and I came across some little spring dresses that were marked WAY down. So I bought 3. I haven't been shopping for myself very often anymore as I am saving for the adoption, but I thought I could get something for katie Grace. Besides, it keeps me encouraged to see those little dresses. I really am trying to be confident about this adoption! Well, after all of this paperwork, waiting, and saving- I have to be! Here are the 3T and 2 4T dresses I just got the other day.



After I bought these few dresses, I went to find some of the dresses that I saved from Christina when she was a little girl. Now Christina was a girlie-girl. She LOVED to wear dresses, bows and fancy sandals. I loved to put dresses on her, so we were a match made in Heaven, (although I am a jeans and T-shirt girl myself)! So here are some of the dresses I had saved of hers. I believe there may be more somewhere around here, I just have to find them. Here are all the dresses. She has 3T up to 8 here.

I didn't realize what a jump I had on dresses for Katie Grace. Now watch, she'll turn out to be a rough and tumble- jeans and T-shirt- tom boy! That's okay, I'll take that! Believe me, we don't just do dresses, it just so happened those are what I've saved because almost everything else was worn out. I'll have to go find the boxes and see what else I saved....

Monday, April 12, 2010

RUSSIAN JOURNALIST CALLS FOR EUTHANASIA OF DISABLED NEWBORNS- APPALLING! Click here to go to video and hear the journalist speak




I came across this article yesterday, and frankly, it made me sick. But I also think it is important to know what some people's mindsets are in the world. Especially if it is a journalist who has a public voice. What does this remind me of? Well, the beginning of the extermination of millions of people in Nazi Germany. To read more about the beautiful adoption of a down's syndrome girl, click on the "Bringing Kellsey Home" button on my sidebar.

Journalist calls for euthanasia of disabled newborns

Published 08 February, 2010, 15:29

Edited 11 March, 2010, 14:08

The article titled “Finish it off so it doesn’t suffer,” which calls for the euthanasia of disabled newborn children, has caused public outrage in Russia and has led to fierce debates in the blogging community.

In the article under question, the author Aleksandr Nikonov argues that the birth of a disabled child for many families would be an unbearable tragedy, “a hell”, and that “the killing of the newborn is in fact the same as an abortion”. He states that depriving infants, who will never be able to take care of themselves, of life is “true humanism”. He also calls to give parents of such children a right to euthanize their newborns, like relatives of patients in a vegetative state can allow doctors to shut down life support.

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The provocative text which described disabled newborns as “defective blanks” and “newborn idiots” naturally caused uproar among people who have mentally-challenged family members as well as human rights activists. The fiercest critics said Nikonov’s ideas paralleled those of the Nazis, who made euthanasia of mentally-ill part of state policy, killing tens of thousands of institutionalized people. Others pointed out that he was plainly wrong in his judgment of how disabled children are treated by their families.

“The author is not raising a disabled child – that is why his generalized conclusions about the life of disabled people and their families… are just speculations. As a mother of a disabled child, and based on my experience, I state that these speculations have nothing to do with the reality,” said Svetlana Shtarkova, who, along with another disabled child’s mother, Snezhana Mitina, has written a letter to the Board of the Union of Russian Journalists.

Following the complaint, the Union of Russian Journalists gathered an ad hoc session of a public board to discuss the article. The board accused the author of the article of breaching professional ethics, adding that he should have realized he was humiliating people who are already bringing up disabled kids. The newspaper where the controversial article was published was also criticized by the board for not presenting any material to balance Nikonov’s piece.

The author disagrees with the criticism and defends his position: “You make people suffer for the sake of ideologies and interpretations of humanism you have in your head. What we offer is choice, and you wrap it inside out, presenting it as if we call for killing of all those disabled people. Nothing like that! We don’t stand against wheel cart ramps or your right to bring up disabled children, we stand for the right to choose,” he told the board.

He says even his original headline read “Commander, finish me to spare the suffering,” is a well-recognized reference to a war-time model scenario, where a wounded soldier asks that he be sacrificed so as not to slow down his retreating squad.

Saturday, April 10, 2010

MOTHER SENDS HER ADOPTED SON BACK TO RUSSIA ON A PLANE BY HIMSELF...WHAT?? ARE YOU KIDDING ME???

Here is the article below regarding the mother who bought her 7 yr. old adopted son a plane ticket and sent him back to Russia 3 days ago. She is his legal mother now, you can't just send him back!! Now don't get me wrong, I do know that families can become extremely stressed with a newly adopted child, and have second thoughts, or even wonder if they can handle a difficult child at all, but there are about a million other steps a person can take before disruption, and of course, before doing something crazy like this! Now hundreds of families who are waiting to complete their Russian adoptions, may not get to do so. This is heartbreaking.
April 9, 2010, 3:10 PM

Shipping an Adopted Son Back to Russia

There is understandable outrage in Russia after an American woman shipped her adopted 7-year-old son back to Moscow yesterday, declaring him to be “mentally unstable.”

The Russian Foreign Minister Sergev Lavrov responded this morning by demanding that all Russia-to-United States adoptions be frozen. That chill will likely affect hundreds of American families; there were 1,600 Russian children adopted in the U.S. last year. My colleague Clifford J. Levy, reportingfrom Moscow, quoted one family whose adoption plans now appear to be on hold:

An American couple who was nearing the end of the process of adopting a Russian baby reacted with despair to the news that the Russian government would suspend adoptions. The couple, who asked that their names not be used to avoid offending the Russian authorities, had already visited Moscow once to take care of the legal procedures, and was planning to return soon to receive the baby.

“My heart is sinking,” the father said. “We knew about laws changing in midstream, that these foreign governments are very bureaucratic, and that there is a lot of posturing that causes delays. But we picked Russia because it seemed like we had a pretty good chance. Now we don’t know what to do.”

The boy, Artyom Savelyev, (whose mother had renamed him Justin) showed up at the Russian Education and Science Ministry on Thursday afternoon accompanied by a Russian man who had apparently been paid $200 by the family to meet the boy’s United Airlines flight when it arrived in Moscow from Washington. The child’s trip had begun earlier in Shelbyville, Tenn., where he has lived since his adoption in September with his adoptive mother, Torry Hansen, and her mother, Nancy.

Nancy Hansen had accompanied Artyom on the leg from Tennessee to Washington, then she put him on the Moscow-bound flight with a one-way ticket as an “unaccompanied minor.” He was carrying a Russian passport and a letter from his mother, which the AP quotes as saying:

“This child is mentally unstable. He is violent and has severe psychopathic issues. I was lied to and misled by the Russian Orphanage workers and director regarding his mental stability and other issues. … After giving my best to this child, I am sorry to say that for the safety of my family, friends, and myself, I no longer wish to parent this child.”

This is not the first sour ending to a Russian adoption in recent years. The Russian government lists 14 cases of Russian adoptees dying of abuse or neglect while living with their American parents since 1996.


Thursday, April 8, 2010

PLEASE HELP BRING JEREMIAH HOME! CLICK HERE!


This isn't the child we are waiting for, but this is the child whose family is dying to bring him home! This is Jeremiah. He is a special needs boy who needs constant care. How many people would CHOOSE to have a child with serious special needs? How many people would be crying every night, LONGING to adopt a child with serious special needs? Not a lot of us have the heart and strength and feel we have the ability to care for a child with these needs. But this friend, Tami, can't think of anything she would rather do in the whole world than bring home and care for Jeremiah's every need. God made her a person who has more love in her heart than most people I know, including me! This will be Tami's second SN adoption. In the U.S., SN children who are given up by their parents receive some quality care throughout their lives. It is not perfect care, but in most cases, acceptable care. In many other countries a child with SN is not acceptable in society and their future is VERY BLEAK. Most likely to end up in a crib in an institution, forever. Please help Tami bring Jeremiah home. She is down to the wire, Taiwan needs her to travel soon and she has not raised all of her funds. She cannot imagine not bringing Jeremiah home to love him and give him the care he needs. Here is a link to her blog.
http://tillgodbringsthemhome.blogspot.com/

Sunday, April 4, 2010

HAPPY EASTER- HE IS RISEN!

Happy Easter everyone! I hope you all had a blessed day and celebrated in your favorite traditional way. We colored Easter eggs yesterday after the Easter egg hunt at church. This morning the kids searched for their baskets and eggs that the Easter Bunny hid throughout the house during the night. Then we all got dressed and went to church for a beautiful outdoor service to celebrate the true meaning of the day- the joy of our Christ's resurrection from the dead and the forgiveness of our sins so that we can come to Him in peace knowing that He accepts and loves us just as we are. He is a loving God who cares about our needs and our peace. He is not a God who expects perfection, nor does He sit at a distance, unreachable. He is present and ready for relationship.
John 3:17- For God sent not His son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through Him might be saved.


Joshua set up and preparing to color his eggs, and yes, he's dressed for making a mess!

And the masterpieces begin!

Look at these beauties! That cute face is my favorite part!

Matthew's turn! Christina and her friend Alexis did some too.

Found my basket!

Matthew's basket was hidden in the oven. That silly Easter Bunny! We also got some awesome crafts from Lolli and Pops!

The boys clean and ready for Church. They don't stay that clean for long so I catch a picture when I can!

"Christinaaaa.....please come out for a picture." "Wait Mom, I'm still straightening my hair."
Classic moments in our conversations. She's probably the most awesome teenager a mom could ever have.

My 3 kiddos- I love 'em!

Annie and Jacob

Saturday, April 3, 2010

EASTER EGG HUNT!

Today, Jacob and I and the boys went to the annual Easter egg hunt at our church. Christina had other plans. Here are the pictures I took. So I told Jacob that I would love a new camera for Christmas. This camera we have has been fine for the past many years, but I want one that will take high quality pictures, and I need it to be affordable. And by saying that I want it affordable, I actually have done absolutely zero research yet and have no idea what the costs are or what I need! Do any of you awesome picture taking blogging moms have any recommendations?


Joshua is ready for some egg hunting!


Matthew and Josh had some fun climbing in this old tree while we waited.






Waiting for the signal to go.

And he's off!

There are lots of kids here, it's open to the community.

Not sure what Joshie's doing, but dad sure looks cute!! xoxoxo

Me and my boys!


Many hungry children near the boarder of Myanmar and Thailand-click on photo