Friday, April 23, 2010
This old sun dial is a good way to watch time pass! Which brings me to the fact that here we are, 5 months on the waiting list. I read on the adoption yahoo group the other day that several families are now well past their 3 year mark of waiting, with still no sign of referral. This is a bit disheartening. I knew that it could possibly be up to 3 years, but now it is looking more and more like the norm and even extending past that. I know we made a change to a child up to 48 months, but there's no way to know if that is going to shorten our wait any. Only time will tell. Obviously. :) Okay, so I will keep a positive attitude for another month, and then next month I will probably leave a similar post, and well, this will probably go on for a looong while so bear with me!
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Monday, April 12, 2010
RUSSIAN JOURNALIST CALLS FOR EUTHANASIA OF DISABLED NEWBORNS- APPALLING! Click here to go to video and hear the journalist speak
I came across this article yesterday, and frankly, it made me sick. But I also think it is important to know what some people's mindsets are in the world. Especially if it is a journalist who has a public voice. What does this remind me of? Well, the beginning of the extermination of millions of people in Nazi Germany. To read more about the beautiful adoption of a down's syndrome girl, click on the "Bringing Kellsey Home" button on my sidebar.
Journalist calls for euthanasia of disabled newborns
Published 08 February, 2010, 15:29
Edited 11 March, 2010, 14:08
The article titled “Finish it off so it doesn’t suffer,” which calls for the euthanasia of disabled newborn children, has caused public outrage in Russia and has led to fierce debates in the blogging community.
In the article under question, the author Aleksandr Nikonov argues that the birth of a disabled child for many families would be an unbearable tragedy, “a hell”, and that “the killing of the newborn is in fact the same as an abortion”. He states that depriving infants, who will never be able to take care of themselves, of life is “true humanism”. He also calls to give parents of such children a right to euthanize their newborns, like relatives of patients in a vegetative state can allow doctors to shut down life support.
The provocative text which described disabled newborns as “defective blanks” and “newborn idiots” naturally caused uproar among people who have mentally-challenged family members as well as human rights activists. The fiercest critics said Nikonov’s ideas paralleled those of the Nazis, who made euthanasia of mentally-ill part of state policy, killing tens of thousands of institutionalized people. Others pointed out that he was plainly wrong in his judgment of how disabled children are treated by their families.
“The author is not raising a disabled child – that is why his generalized conclusions about the life of disabled people and their families… are just speculations. As a mother of a disabled child, and based on my experience, I state that these speculations have nothing to do with the reality,” said Svetlana Shtarkova, who, along with another disabled child’s mother, Snezhana Mitina, has written a letter to the Board of the Union of Russian Journalists.
Following the complaint, the Union of Russian Journalists gathered an ad hoc session of a public board to discuss the article. The board accused the author of the article of breaching professional ethics, adding that he should have realized he was humiliating people who are already bringing up disabled kids. The newspaper where the controversial article was published was also criticized by the board for not presenting any material to balance Nikonov’s piece.
The author disagrees with the criticism and defends his position: “You make people suffer for the sake of ideologies and interpretations of humanism you have in your head. What we offer is choice, and you wrap it inside out, presenting it as if we call for killing of all those disabled people. Nothing like that! We don’t stand against wheel cart ramps or your right to bring up disabled children, we stand for the right to choose,” he told the board.
He says even his original headline read “Commander, finish me to spare the suffering,” is a well-recognized reference to a war-time model scenario, where a wounded soldier asks that he be sacrificed so as not to slow down his retreating squad.
Saturday, April 10, 2010
Shipping an Adopted Son Back to RussiaBy LISA BELKIN
There is understandable outrage in Russia after an American woman shipped her adopted 7-year-old son back to Moscow yesterday, declaring him to be “mentally unstable.”
The Russian Foreign Minister Sergev Lavrov responded this morning by demanding that all Russia-to-United States adoptions be frozen. That chill will likely affect hundreds of American families; there were 1,600 Russian children adopted in the U.S. last year. My colleague Clifford J. Levy, reportingfrom Moscow, quoted one family whose adoption plans now appear to be on hold:
An American couple who was nearing the end of the process of adopting a Russian baby reacted with despair to the news that the Russian government would suspend adoptions. The couple, who asked that their names not be used to avoid offending the Russian authorities, had already visited Moscow once to take care of the legal procedures, and was planning to return soon to receive the baby.
“My heart is sinking,” the father said. “We knew about laws changing in midstream, that these foreign governments are very bureaucratic, and that there is a lot of posturing that causes delays. But we picked Russia because it seemed like we had a pretty good chance. Now we don’t know what to do.”
The boy, Artyom Savelyev, (whose mother had renamed him Justin) showed up at the Russian Education and Science Ministry on Thursday afternoon accompanied by a Russian man who had apparently been paid $200 by the family to meet the boy’s United Airlines flight when it arrived in Moscow from Washington. The child’s trip had begun earlier in Shelbyville, Tenn., where he has lived since his adoption in September with his adoptive mother, Torry Hansen, and her mother, Nancy.
Nancy Hansen had accompanied Artyom on the leg from Tennessee to Washington, then she put him on the Moscow-bound flight with a one-way ticket as an “unaccompanied minor.” He was carrying a Russian passport and a letter from his mother, which the AP quotes as saying:
“This child is mentally unstable. He is violent and has severe psychopathic issues. I was lied to and misled by the Russian Orphanage workers and director regarding his mental stability and other issues. … After giving my best to this child, I am sorry to say that for the safety of my family, friends, and myself, I no longer wish to parent this child.”
This is not the first sour ending to a Russian adoption in recent years. The Russian government lists 14 cases of Russian adoptees dying of abuse or neglect while living with their American parents since 1996.
Thursday, April 8, 2010
This isn't the child we are waiting for, but this is the child whose family is dying to bring him home! This is Jeremiah. He is a special needs boy who needs constant care. How many people would CHOOSE to have a child with serious special needs? How many people would be crying every night, LONGING to adopt a child with serious special needs? Not a lot of us have the heart and strength and feel we have the ability to care for a child with these needs. But this friend, Tami, can't think of anything she would rather do in the whole world than bring home and care for Jeremiah's every need. God made her a person who has more love in her heart than most people I know, including me! This will be Tami's second SN adoption. In the U.S., SN children who are given up by their parents receive some quality care throughout their lives. It is not perfect care, but in most cases, acceptable care. In many other countries a child with SN is not acceptable in society and their future is VERY BLEAK. Most likely to end up in a crib in an institution, forever. Please help Tami bring Jeremiah home. She is down to the wire, Taiwan needs her to travel soon and she has not raised all of her funds. She cannot imagine not bringing Jeremiah home to love him and give him the care he needs. Here is a link to her blog.
Sunday, April 4, 2010
Matthew's basket was hidden in the oven. That silly Easter Bunny! We also got some awesome crafts from Lolli and Pops!
The boys clean and ready for Church. They don't stay that clean for long so I catch a picture when I can!